Bear411 Fun

[daddytodd]

Bear411 profile quote: "Don't bother writing if your going to call me boy, boi, pup, son, and kiddo. Newly added word I hate is sport."

OK, how about "asshole?"

Another Bear411 profile quote: "Not looking to meet any one for sex I have someone for that and alot more. His profile on here is XXXXX, Come on guys show a little respect. Taken means NOT LOOKING for any thing more than friends."

In what sense is it "disrespectful" to hit upon someone who has his profile posted on a hook-up site? What am I not getting here?

Comments

[daddytodd.livejournal.com]

Very odd, that... But to each his own. I work very hard to respect his wishes, but sometimes it just sort of slips out, usually when I'm thinking about him in nasty ways...

[bitterlawngnome.livejournal.com]

I don't think it's altogether a bad thing ... one needs to learn to differentiate what happens in a fantasy setting, and what's real life. And on another level, to appreciate that service / submission / etc actually can be a good thing, and enrich both people involved. In other words "son" or "boy" isn't necessarily a swearword.

[daddytodd.livejournal.com]

It also should represent a certain kind of emotional commitment / support on the part of the "daddy" towards the "boy," in addition to an indication of relative hierarchical position in the pack.

Even daddies need a daddy; even boys need a boy. There is no absolute top or absolute bottom.

All daddies were once boys; all boys grow up to be daddies...

[bitterlawngnome.livejournal.com]

I think for some people it can be a way of reclaiming those relationships in a way that is supportive rather than punishing.

[daddytodd.livejournal.com]

Absolutely. If it becomes about manipulation or a power grab, run away from it. If the "daddy" isn't nurturing the "boy," then the boy needs to leave and find a better daddy.

[danthered.livejournal.com]

I work very hard to respect his wishes

I'm quite sure he genuinely appreciates your efforts to respect his wishes, even if you don't yet understand them.