Bear411 Fun

[daddytodd]

Bear411 profile quote: "Don't bother writing if your going to call me boy, boi, pup, son, and kiddo. Newly added word I hate is sport."

OK, how about "asshole?"

Another Bear411 profile quote: "Not looking to meet any one for sex I have someone for that and alot more. His profile on here is XXXXX, Come on guys show a little respect. Taken means NOT LOOKING for any thing more than friends."

In what sense is it "disrespectful" to hit upon someone who has his profile posted on a hook-up site? What am I not getting here?

Comments

[in-fin-i-ty.livejournal.com]

I freely admit that Bear411 is less a hookup site for me than a social/chat/replacement-for-gay.com venue. Part of this is due to a constantly changing schedule which is often not conducive to more 'traditional' social interactions. So I hop on Bear411 for some gab.

But I get frustrated 'cuz I clearly state on my profile not only the bear4friends but that I'm NOT looking for dates, hookups or boyfriends. Still I get all sorts of guys who either just want to fuck or are looking for their next ex. In fact right now I'm dealing with two guys who seem to think they have some magical power that will somehow slap a wedding band on my finger. ARGH.

"Wand of Magic Marriage (doubles treasure) meet Cloak of Frozen Heart (+15 AC against desperate enemies)"

I disagree with your second guy that 'taken' doesn't always mean not up for fun but I think the biggest thing is that, if someone has gone to the trouble of writing a bunch of information, it's a bit rude to just ignore it. On the other hand I don't think it's out of line to say something like, "I know you're just here for friends but I had to say you're very attractive." Of course that's different than being all, "YER HOT. LETS FUK!"

[daddytodd.livejournal.com]

But some guys take the the "profile" to an absurd extreme, writing paragraphs about what an asshole their ex was, and hot you'd better not be the same kind of asshole, and if you are DON'T BOTHER!

I also have an issue with profiles that say they're looking for "a hot guy" but neglect to define "hot." Like, how do I know I'm NOT his ideal of hotness?

[in-fin-i-ty.livejournal.com]

But some guys take the the "profile" to an absurd extreme, writing paragraphs...

(like me (http://www.BEAR411.com/leatherotter)? *heh*) True. I don't mean to sound like you have to make an indepth study, of course. Sometimes I just skim through for major points. Plus if they're really that bad then I probably won't IM them anyways since they sound like drama with a side of migraine. :/

[daddytodd.livejournal.com]

Oh dude, you're totally an amateur compared to some guys who have profiles that scroll for 2 or 3 PAGES or angst. No, your profile is not one of the "offenders" in that regard.

But I gotta ask you, wanna hook up?

Hehe!